Ladies, let’s get real for a second. Many of us, myself included, are setting our love lives up for failure. How, you may ask? By wasting our time on guys who aren’t into us. It’s time to stop blaming the dudes who are treating us poorly, because they’re being crystal clear with their intentions. If he wants to be in a relationship with you, then he’ll be up front with you. However, if he has a different agenda then he’ll be showing signs that he’s just not that into you. And while facing that reality can be a tough pill to swallow, addressing these red flags are essential to finding long term happiness. Take a look at 15 ways you can tell that he’s just not that into you and let us know if we forgot one of the signs in the comments section on social media.
He only hits you up after 9pm
Girl, if he’s only hitting you up at night—this means you’re in booty call territory.
He only wants to “hang,” but never initiates dates
Do you guys go on actual dates (in public) or does he just want to hang out at home to Netflix-n-Chill? If the answer is the latter, you might be messing with a fuck boy.
He leaves you on read
Let’s face it, if he wanted to text you back then he would. If he’s leaving you on read for hours, it’s doubtful his phone is dead and instead he’s ignoring you.
He always makes plans with you last minute
If he’s always hitting you up day of, odds are his original plans backed out and you’re his backup.
His friends have never heard about you
If you guys have been seeing each other for months and he’s never mentioned you to his close friends, you’re probably just a hookup to him.
He’ll disappear for days then make up a half-assed excuse
You can see right through his excuse, whether he’s busy with work or taking a social media cleanse. Again, if he really likes you then he’ll make the effort to be in your life.
He’s “always” busy
I don’t care who you are or what your job is, no one is too busy to send a text.
He’s vague about his availability
He might be a fuck boy if you have a hard time setting up concrete plans with him, especially during prime times (a.k.a. the weekend).
He cancels plans with no explanation
If he’s always bailing on you, he doesn’t value your time and isn’t taking the relationship seriously.
He never texts first
Do you find yourself always texting first every single time? Yeah, that’s not a good sign.
He just wants to “see where this goes”
This attitude is totally okay during the early stages of a relationship. But if it’s been months and you haven’t had “the talk,” then he’s not likely to lock you down.
He doesn’t try to get to know you
This is a big one. If you’ve been seeing each other for a while and he doesn’t know anything about your family or your aspirations, he probably isn’t invested in you.
He says all of his exes are crazy
If every single one of his exes are “psycho,” that speaks more of his character than theirs.
He begs for nudes
If he’s an adult and asking for nudes, run!
He swears he’s not a fuck boy
Actions speak louder than words, my friend.